Sex & Erotic

Q HOW often do people normally have sex per day? My new boyfriend and I made love 11 times on the first day of our first holiday. Louise, 23 A WELL, I'm happy for you and will accept the broad truth of your claim. In the early flush of a relationship it's common for lovers to cling and clutch all the time as part of the process of bonding. Sex in these circumstances is just shorthand for "I love you" and "I want you under my skin". But it would be straining convention to describe 11 separate acts of intercourse as typical. You might mean 11 climaxes during one act of sex (possible for the woman) or 11 couplings without any climax at all (a feat managed by erotic performers in continental nightclubs).It would certainly be very difficult for a man to climax 11 times during a 24-hour period, whatever his age, although it's possible he might make the attempt. The largest boast I've ever heard was from a young Hungarian couple who said they had sex 16 times on their wedding night - but who can prove what? Your question suggests quantity is almost causing you anxiety. Inevitably, as time goes by, you will learn not to 'count the bouts' but to enjoy the bond. In later life many parents find sex is less on their minds because they're tired. Meanwhile, younger couples are prone to exaggerate how often they make love to prove they ARE in love. Q I FOUND my 18-year-old on the sofa having sex with his girlfriend. Was I right to be angry? Chloe, 45 A THAT depends on your background and morality. If you have been conditioned to think this sort of behaviour sinful or unethical, or believe they are just downright cheeky, it's no surprise you lost your cool. Possibly you felt territorial? "How dare they invade my relaxation space with their sordid lusts?" If the vision raised uncomfortable sexual feelings in you - perhaps of jealousy, envy or desire - then you might well experience rage to cope with them. I can appreciate all these reactions. But the important question is what you are going to do next because whatever has happened to you, there are now two young people feeling pretty embarrassed and distressed. Could you let them know that while you understand their need to cuddle, family living rooms - especially YOUR family living room - are not their boudoir? If you have a question for Alex Hooper-Hodson, email sexpert@dailyrecord.co.uk Daily UK Record

Honesty and communication make up the foundation for a healthy relationship. But, what exactly does it take to achieve these things? According to certified Sexologist Jaiya Hanauer, there are ten important ways to build intimacy and make a deeper connection with your partner. 1. MAKING EYE CONTACT The eyes are the doorways to a connected sex life. Although it may feel a little funny at first, making eye contact during sex tells your partner that all your attention is on him. It builds trust, which ultimately leads to a stronger sexual and emotional bond. 2. TOUCHING Touching each other throughout the day builds longing for each other. Massaging, stroking, and caressing all produces oxytocin, which is the bonding chemical. To build a deeper connection, try touching each other without having sex. Build up the tension for a few days to make your next intimate an explosive encounter. 3. BREATHING We do it automatically everyday but most of us don’t realize that breathing is a way to heighten pleasure and arousal. When you breathe deeper, you bring more oxygen into the body, which allows you to be aroused at greater heights. Alternating your breath as you breathe into each other’s mouths is an intimate exercise that has been used in ancient traditions as a way to share the soul. 4. EXPLICIT TALK The simple act of sending a sweet text message or complimenting your lover can send blood rushing into the genitals. Not only does it build anticipation, but will also keep your partner thinking about you all day. 5. SETTING THE SCENE Nothing breaks the mood like cell phones blaring and clutter all over your bedroom. Set the scene for intimacy with sensual music, candles, clean sheets and a shift in environment. Don’t limit intimacy to the bedroom only, you can also create a stage for an encore performance in the living room or kitchen. Think of sex as a theatrical piece—you need the right lighting, right mood and sets. Stimulating your creativity as you prepare actually stimulates the sexual drive. 6. DOING SOMETHING EXTRAORDINARY Taking the time out to do things for your lover that shows that you care and respect his feelings is very important. Plan to go to his favorite restaurant, run a simple errand for him or cook him an exquisite meal. Doing something for him out of the blue will surely increase the love he has for you. 7. TRYING SOMETHING NEW Many couples get into patterns when it comes to sex. To break free of the bedroom doldrums, do something adventurous. Take a class together at a sex boutique, go skydiving or do something else that you have never done in bed before, but have always wanted to try. 8. SENSUAL FEATS Creating a romantic dinner together with specific foods can actually form deeper bonds. Chocolate, for example, contains the chemical Phenethylamine (PEA) which is responsible for the feeling of being in love. Avocados boost both the male and female libido. 9. ROLE PLAYING Using your imagination always gives a great boost to your sex life. If you consciously take on a fantasy role in the bedroom, the level of intimacy is heightened when you come back to your more traditional roles in the relationship. Try role-playing as an erotic masseuse and client or as a captor and captive. 10. ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE VULNERABLEIn today’s world, women are becoming stronger than ever and it takes a lot to let down our guards, especially if we’ve been hurt before. But, letting the walls around you melt and allowing your partner to penetrate you emotionally and physically are some of the best things you can do in a relationship. Share your deepest feelings with him and allow him to get to know all the different facets of your personality. SheKnows.com

There is an episode of "The Simpsons'' where Marge and Homer try to spice up their love life by having sex in unlikely places. Marge is turned on by the danger in the possibility of getting caught. They try it in a hot air balloon and the windmill of a miniature golf course, among other places. Just in case you can't fit through the hole of the windmill of your nearest miniature golf courses, we'd like to offer up some options for the most extreme places to have sex as a result of a poll taken on a local university campus: 1) The roof of your neighbor's house. You'll probably have a great view depending on the higher the roof, and its more adventuresome if their home. What to watch out for--peaks and slippery shingles. 2) In the dean's (or your bosses office). This really gives it an element of danger in the possibility of getting caught. A word of caution, the better you know your boss and their schedule, the more fun this can be. 3) A pool table or a casino gaming table. I don't know how they came up with this one but I imagine if one of you works in a bar and is on the closing shift it wouldn't be that hard. As far as the casino gaming table goes... 4) The old stand by and most given answer to the poll, an airplane bathroom. This was probably a lot easier before the terrorist attacks forced security issues which make getting in "the mile high club" a lot harder. 5) Public bathrooms. Choose a cleaner one, and here's a hint. Use the women's. They have more stalls to choose from. 6) Another popular college standby, the deserted football field at night. If you're really into danger, go in the winter before a game is supposed to start and try to be done before they turn on the lights to set up. In the summertime, you'll get a great view of the stars, and that can be a real turn on. 7) The edge of a cliff came up a lot in the poll. Bring a blanket and please don't go after dark or to an area where you're not sure where the footholds are. Sex should be fun. 8) In a cramped closet. You can pretend you're playing "ten minutes in heaven" from your middle school days. If you have a third friend who is willing to play hide and seek with you, they could search the house while you do it! 9) The car can be an extreme place to have sex, sometimes it's a struggle to find just the right position. You can drive around to different places, as well. Be sure not to park in a tow away zone and lose track of time. You can try it on the hood, if the inside is just too close a fit. 10) There's no place like home; your own backyard, to be exact. Public yet secluded. 11) Rent a boat or float down a low class rapids. This is a great way to spend an afternoon of your camping vacation. Secluded canyons offer a great view and all the privacy you could want, with the added little excitement of the possibility of seeing other couples on the river. 12) Rent a hotel room with a high story balcony room. Don't try to sit on the edge of the balcony, but having her bend over the edge is okay. Try out the height before you getting going, safety first. 13) A public camping ground, both inside and outside of the tent. The more secluded, the better, but depending on what part of the country you live in, beware of the wildlife. 14) You've heard about women leaning on the washer during the spin cycle? Well, it really works. The rest is up to you, but try oral sex here. Have her sit on top of the washer while you kneel in front of her. Use several pillows to increase the height if you need to. 15) A motorcycle is another of the top answers. Some prefer to leave the cycle running, but chrome can get hot and burn, so be careful. 16) The back of the movie theater is still one of the best haunts for sex from your high school years. I don't care how old you are, pick a lesser attended movie if you are shy, but sit in the back and finger each other, if nothing else. This can bring back some great memories and create some pleasant new ones. 17) Purchase two Amtrak tickets and go for the night. The little sleeping cubicles are reminiscent of a tent, but are much more comfortable. I've heard it said that the motion of the train is especially stimulating. 18) Visit your lover's parents and do it in their old childhood bedroom, if it's still available. If Mom and Pop have a hot tub and will be out for the evening, so much the better. 19) Most of the women asked said things like "outside in the rain," or "on top of a hill at night." This isn't nearly as exciting as, say, a trampoline, but it's a good note to have. If you know where she's wiling to do it, you're half way there in getting her to. Just thought I'd mention it. 20) Here's an interesting on; in a car during a traffic jam. You're not going anywhere for awhile, anyway. And remember, sex doesn't just mean missionary style intercourse, get creative. 21) Find a creepy, scary place. Lover's lanes are popular, but if you have a local spot where urban legends are said to abound, try parking there and keeping each other occupied so you won't be scared. Many urban legends revolve around two kids parked in a car, scarping on the roof, etc. Let your imagination go and tell some of your local urban legends. 22) Hay barns are popular around this area. If you can find a deserted one, so much the better. If you only think it might be deserted, there's where your excitement of the possibility of being caught (or poked, no pun intended) comes in. 23) In the school yard on a jungle gym at night. They are made from much softer stuff than they used to be. Try going around in one of those tire swings. Don't drink alcohol before trying this one, the spinning motion maybe more than you can handle, and the night could end up bad. 24) Some automatic car washes are twenty four hours. Just a thought. 25) In an air field when it's a full moon. Make sure it really is abandoned, because those planes come in from seemingly out of nowhere. 26) There are movie scenes where the couple does it in an elevator. Take a cue from the movies and try having sex in some of the unlikely places that those writers come up with, and here's a hint--when you push the top button on the elevator, don't make the mistake of pushing all of the buttons as the doors will open on every floor. 27) One young man said ''While scuba diving." I'm not sure if he meant while on vacation or during the actual act of being underwater. I'll leave it up to you to figure it out. 28) Another popular answer was "at an amusement park." Wait until the Ferris ride leaves you stuck at the top, or try the tunnel of love. I personally, house of mirrors. 29) Other people said in the back of a limo, but I think limo drivers kind of expect this, so not so exciting. Another answer was at the drive in movie, but where can you find one of those these days? If you can, it's probably as good as the "in the back of the theater" one. 30) The absolute top answer given by couples who were asked "give me three exciting places to have sex" was "In front of a camera." Home porno movies are fast becoming popular for couples of all ages, so get your self one and get a few shots of you and your lover having sex in extreme places. Have fun and be safe. SexGooRoo

Important Information About Vibrating Eggs!
Never use an Egg for vaginal or anal insertion unless specifically stated on the toy that it is designed for this usage. Vibrating Eggs are small vibrators in the shape of an egg and like vibrating Bullets they are designed for external stimulation only (unless stated otherwise). The shape makes them perfect for clitoral stimulation. An Egg Vibrator can be used by itself or in conjunction with a Dildo or inside a Harness.
Sex Toy Cleanliness Is Important!
It is very important to understand that unclean toys can transmit STD's and viruses and if you have any kind of vaginatis or other medical problem it is possible to reinfect yourself if you do not keep your sex toys absolutely clean and germ free. Another benefit of clean sex toys - They will last a lot longer if they are properly maintained.
Cleaning Your Sex Toys
Antibacterial soap and warm water are a must for cleaning sex toys. Any toy that has come in contact with blood should be washed with soap and water and then soaked in a solution of one part household bleach to nine parts water. Remember to rinse well in clear water afterwards to remove any all residue. There are also several good commercial adult toy cleaning solutions that can be purchased that have been specially formulated to kill all bacteria and germs and at the same time preserve the life of the toys. Silicone is a very durable material and is easily cleaned with soap and water, boiling to disinfect will not harm it and it can even be placed on the top rack of the dishwasher. Note: Make sure the entire product is made of silicone and that it does not have any plastic parts. Anything that is on the device that is not silicone could be damaged. If any part of the sex toy is made from a material other than silicone then it should be cleaned with soap and water and a good commercial toy cleaner. Even though silicone is very durable it can crack which can lead to a tear, so be careful with nails and teeth when you are handling silicone toys. Cyberskin is extremely sensitive and should be cleaned following every use with warm water. Cyberskin adult toy products should be stored in a clean dry place. Be sure to read the manufacturers instructions on how to care for these products.

The hurt always seemed to be just below the surface, ready to be torn open with even the most innocent of comments. She remembers as if it were just yesterday, her high school days, the snide remarks by her friends, the cruel barbs that left permanent scars! She especially thought of those days when she was performing her thrice a week chore of shaving her legs! Along with her beautiful olive skin, the slightly drooping heavy breasts, the flat tummy, and plush ass, came the curse of incredibly thick black hair! Now if it were only confined to the top of her head, and she did possess a mane of long thick tresses, she would have been more than happy with her appearance, unfortunately, that was not the case, as black fur seemed to sprout a will over a large portion of her body!!! From her waist down, it was a constant battle to control the unbelievably thick growth of unwanted hair!!! Even though she shaved her legs three times a week, by the end of the first day, a hard stubble already could be seen with the naked eye, and if she went a week without using a razor, from across the room you could barely see her skin!!! That wasn’t even the worst of it, because her pussy was so thick with hair, you couldn’t even see her vaginal lips unless you physically spread then with your fingers!!! Even her tummy wasn’t immune, as a trail of dark hair ran from her cunt all the way up to her naval!!! It was so embarrassing, that all the way through college, her dates always ended with just a good night kiss or maybe a little petting in the back seat of a car, but never would she allow a man to see what she had hiding under her skirt, that was until now. Got your cabin ready, Miss Pappas, same one as last year, Mrs. Ives said cheerily, hope the weather’s better though, if I recall it rained every day you were here last time!!! Thanks, but the rain didn’t really bother me, Faye Pappas replied, I really come up here just to get away from the city and for some peace and quiet! Well, we’ve got plenty of that, only a few of the other cabins have guests, Mrs. Ives replied, but I expect you’ll be meeting them soon enough, now here’s your key, have a nice vacation, dear! Faye’s cabin was clean and neat, with a slight odor of cleanser in the air. After hanging her clothes up, she opened the windows to air the place out and decided to go for a walk down by the lake. It was only about four o’clock, so she had plenty of time to check out the scenery before supper time. Faye zipped up her jacket and stuck her hands in the pockets as a heavy breeze seemed to lower the temperature by a good fifteen degrees. She made her way down the tree lined path to the glistening waters of Elbow Lake which shone in the fading sun like diamonds on a necklace! Picking up a stone, she skipped it across the rippling waters and counted out loud, One, two, three, four, not bad for my first throw! From behind her a male voice startled her when it said, Not bad indeed!!! Faye spun around only to be confronted by the smiling face of a man who appeared to be about her own age. Hi, he introduced himself, my name’s Mike, Mike O’Brien, I’m staying in cabin three just around the corner from yours! Giving the stranger a quick once over, Faye nodded and replied, I’m Faye Pappas, you must be one of the other guests Mrs. Ives was talking about. Sure am, he replied assuredly, it’s my second visit up here, I just love the solitude! I come up every year around this time, she answered, fall is my favorite time of year, the leaves are turning and the place isn’t being over run with children, not that I have anything against children, she quickly rejoined, well you know what I mean!!! He laughed and infectious hearty laugh that made her feel immediately at ease and then he remarked, Since you and I are the only two our age around here, what do you say we have dinner together!?! Giving him one more look over, she smiled and replied, Sure, why not!!! The sun was down and the fire was warm, as Mike adjusted the hot dog he had placed on sticks above the yellow and blue flames! This will probably be our last cookout of the year, he said while poking at the burning embers with a stick, hope you like ‘dogs!!! That’s fine with me, Faye answered quickly, nothing better at a barbecue! Mike plopped down on the blanket next to her and poured a glass of wine for each of them and then toasted, Here’s to good vacations and better friends!!! Faye, feeling all warm inside, clicked glasses with Mike, took a long sip of wine, and asked, Where are you from, Mike?!? St. Louis, he replied, and you? Chicago, she responded! Upon finding that out, they launched into an argument about the Cubs and Cardinals, that never really ended until it was time to each their meal. Afterward, Mike lay back down on the blanket and said, Look at those stars, Faye, do you think there are two of them out there for us?!? Taking a place on her back next to him she replied, There are so many, I think there is a star for each of us on earth!!! Rolling over onto his side so he faced her, Mike gazed into her eyes for a moment and said softly, You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, and almost casually, like he had done it all his life, he leaned down and kissed her softly on her lips!!! Although she was a little surprised at his forwardness, Faye eagerly returned the kiss, the desire now pumping through her entire being!!! Mike pulled away for a second, and stared back into her eyes and breathed, I hope you are feeling what I am, the passion, the electricity, I have never felt like this…… He never got another word out, because Faye pulled him back to her eagerly, now probing his mouth with her tongue, and yes, the passion and electricity were more than there!!! Large hands caressed her breasts through her sweater, but it had been so long since a man had felt her there, that it was almost like the first time!!! The eagerness to give yourself to a man, to let him partake of what no man had ever touched. She knew she was losing control, but made no effort to stop him as his hand quickly found its way inside of her bra and to her now hard nipple! The air whistled out of her lungs as he tweaked the hard nub between his thumb and forefinger, causing her to moan as the excitement built between her legs!!! Their kisses became even more passionate, their tongues searching and probing each other, his hands roaming under her sweater, not being able to decide which breast to play with!!! He slid his mouth to her ear and whispered hoarsely, I want to you now, I want to take you and become one with you!!! For the first time since she was with him, fear spread through her like a wild prairie fire and she moaned back to him, I-I-I’ve never, I mean, you might be disappointed in me, if we. Another kiss from him shut her up, and in a split second she made her decision, as she offered no resistance when he slid his hand down the front of her dungarees and inside of her bikini panties!!! Her heart was pounding like a trip hammer, while wondering if he would get up and run like the wind when he discovered her awful secret!!! As his hand encountered the lush jungle of her mons, he stopped moving momentarily, which caused her whole body to stiffen, as if to get ready for the rejection sure to follow, but much to her delight and amazement, he groaned into her mouth as he let his fingers luxuriate in the thick carpet of pubic hair!!! Now it was her turn to whisper into his ear and she asked excitedly, ‘Y- you’re not mad at me, I mean for, you know what I mean?!? Mad at you, he said lovingly, how could I ever be mad at the only woman I’ve ever loved!?! Upon hearing that, her head rolled back and she moaned, P-please, take me, I’m yours forever!!! The wind was brisk, and the air was cool as Mike pulled Faye’s pants and panties down her legs, she involuntarily shivered both from the chill in the air as well as the anticipation in her heart!!! Feeling the soft downy hair on Faye’s legs, Mike groaned louder, the desire welling up stronger than he had ever experienced before! Still feeling a little self conscious about her hair, Faye asked for the last time, Are you sure, you’ve probably never been with a woman like me before!?! Mike stood up next to Faye and dropped his pants, revealing his hard thick erection in the pale moon light! Laying back down next to her he asked, Does this feel like I want to, while at the same time guiding her hand to the knob of his hard pecker!?! This was a first for her, not only was she a virgin, but Faye had never even seen or touched a penis in her life, let alone a large erection like Mike’s!!! Again, Mike whispered softly into her ear, This is your first time, isn’t it?!? Faye’s eyes welled up with tears, and she replied in a barely audible voice, Yes, and I’m very nervous!!! Gently kissing away the tears rolling down her cheeks, Mike then kissed his way down over Faye’s bosom, past her belly button, and all the way down to her furry muffy!!! Using his fingers, he carefully spread her lips, and with a skilled tongue, quickly found Faye’s clitoris and brought her to a stunning orgasm!!! The experience was shattering, her only previous climaxes had been self induced using only her fingers, and now here on the beach of Elbow Lake, she had been orally satisfied for the very first time!!! In the past, when ever she would masturbate, there was always that feeling that something was lacking, even though her sexual edge had been removed, she sensed that she needed more! At this very moment in time, the whole thing became crystal clear, her need to be penetrated was now more than just a vague feeling gnawing at her psyche, it was an unmistakable craving pouring from her now drenched vagina!!! Mike, immediately sensing her urgency, slid his body over hers until his pecker was pushing insistently at her tight vaginal opening!!! Last chance to back out, he whispered into her ear, while running his tongue in and out of her auditory organ!!! As he licked her ear harder, she gasped and involuntarily thrust her hip forward, in an attempt to force penetration!!! Savoring every moment, Mike slowly pushed his head into the unused slit, until he encountered an obstruction, looking Faye in the eyes for a signal, she pulled herself closer and whispered, Do me now!!! Pulling back slightly, Mike then buried his meat in one hard plunge all the way into the tightest pussy he had ever felt!!! For one second, Faye felt a blinding pain rushing from her vagina, but almost instantly it was replaced with the most incredibly wonderful sensation!!! She was a virgin no more, and was it ever worth the wait!!! She had found a man who loved her for what she was, and even more amazing, he seemed to revel in her hirsuteness!!! As the thick pecker began plowing in and out of her, she now realized how addictive having a large penis in her pussy could become!!! She often wondered why women as well as men, would take unbelievable risks just to fuck someone, well now she knew, once you crossed that threshold, there was no turning back!!! Mike’s erection felt like a piece of steel in her pussy, and as he plunged into her, she met his strokes with perfect timing, pushing up to get maximum penetration!!! What was even more startling, was as hard as he seemed at the time, Mike would even get harder as his orgasm grew near!!! The tempo of his thrusting increased dramatically, while at the same time his penis stiffened even harder!!! Now he was gasping for air, and he said between pants, I-I-I can’t hold it back any longer, I’m going to shoot it into your pussy!!! Faye rolled her head from side to side as her own climax rushed down upon her and she moaned out loud, Oh, god, Mike, cum with me, please cum with me, you make me feel so much like a woman should feel!!! Two hours ago they had never even met, now, here on the beach they were becoming more than lovers, they were becoming soul mates!!! Arrrrahg, Mike exploded, while his cock spasmed on and off for the next thirty seconds, depositing load after load of hot jism into the hairy wet cunt!!! Faye, feeling the wonderful sensation of having her pussy flooded with sperm, moaned loudly, and then sighed deeply as her orgasm seemed to envelope her in a sexual high that she would now crave to receive as often as possible!!! The two lovers, sweaty and spent, held each other in their arms, kissing each other softly and trading sweet thank yous back and forth between kisses!!! Faye was about to bring up her problem, but before she could mention it, Mike was gently rubbing her hairy thigh as if it were a comforter!!! She smiled to herself and nestled into his strong arms and knew instinctively that everything would work out just fine!!! NewEroticStories

By Amy Keyishian Want to make your husband's head spin? These kisses, caresses and steamy mood setters will make him feel like the luckiest man alive
Take an orange wedge and slick the juice onto your lips so they're wet and enticing. Then give your guy a sweet, citrusy smooch.
Want to drop a hot hint of what you're dying to do in bed? Buy a copy of The Joy of Sex and stick Post-its on the pages that describe positions and tips you'd like to try. Then leave it where he'll find it.
Get a set of ridiculously long press-on fingernails and delicately run them over his chest during lovemaking. They'll make you look like a minx, and the teasing-tickling sensation will awaken his wild side.
After nooky one night, write down the things he did that wowed you the most. Then write "Dear [insert your husband's name]," at the top of the note and slip it into his pocket so the next day he can be reminded of how much he rocked your world.
Switch sex positions from him on top to you on top (or vice versa) without interrupting the action. How? Wrap your legs around his waist, throw your arms around his shoulders and roll over in unison. This way you can stay intimately connected for a superclose sexual experience.
Hit a totally new erogenous zone: his "N-spot," the crease between a man's chin and Adam's apple. Kissing, licking and nibbling this extra-sensitive spot will activate the nerve endings in his genitals, says Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed.
Before you join your guy between the sheets, cover every inch of your body in moisturizer. This soothing self-massage will give your libido a jump-start, so you're craving his caresses by the time you're in bed.
Go bowling, play poker, do whatever you normally do for fun, but tell him you want to make it interesting with a sexy wager: Whoever loses has to [you fill in the blank].
When you're on top of him during the act, raise your knees, plant your feet on the bed and move up and down rather than back and forth. Not only will this take-charge pose make him think you're a sex goddess, but he'll get an incredible view of the action down below.
Trim your bikini line just a little bit more than usual. Trust us, he'll notice.
Next time you're making love in the missionary position, raise your knees as high as you can for a deeper, more intimate penetration.
Invest in a push-up bra of daring proportions. On your next date night, wear it with a crystal necklace that plunges into the crevasse of your cleavage.
Buy a few kinds of flavored body lotion (try the Motion Lotion Sampler Pack, goodvibes.com) and rub them on different parts of your body. Then play Guess That Flavor: Is it banana? Wild cherry? Triggering his taste buds will turn sex into even more of a multisensory experience.
Stimulate his sacrum (the cute little triangle below the small of his back, right where his buttocks start). A featherlike stroke here will activate the nerve endings up his spine and elsewhere, says Lisa Sussman, author of Over 100 Truly Astonishing Sex Tips.
When you're cuddling on the couch watching TV, casually unclasp your bra and pull it out your sleeve, like Jennifer Beals did in
Flashdance. Just don't be surprised if his hands start wandering!
Ever wanted to surprise your guy by wearing a garter belt with stockings -- and nothing else -- but cringed at exposing so much skin? Check out the new garter skirts from the Such-a-Flirt collection by Victoria's Secret (victoriassecret.com). They offer more coverage than your typical garter, so you'll feel sexy rather than self-conscious.
When you begin to make love, start with short, shallow thrusts before you let him go deep. This will hit the most sensitive spots on you (the opening of the vagina) and him (the head of the penis), says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., author of Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex.
Soak in a warm bubble bath when you know your hubby's on his way home. Greet him with a soapy, slick foot wave and invite him in!
During intercourse, switch to oral sex and then back every once in a while. Alternating sensations will make both even more exhilarating, says St. Claire.
Have your husband close his eyes while you feed him treats, such as mango slices or a decadent spoonful of Nutella, la 9 1/2 Weeks. This will get him to focus on sensations he normally takes for granted -- and probably get him hungering to indulge in other ways. During foreplay, pick a part of his body that's your favorite and praise it to the skies. Start with "You've got the most beautiful shoulders/chest/butt I've ever seen," then expand by adding how it makes you feel -- safe, weak-kneed or just plain turned on. This will increase his confidence, which is the key to crazy-hot sex, says Catherine Cardinal, Ph.D., author of The Ten Commandments of Relationships.
When he's still awake but thinks you're asleep, pretend you're having an erotic dream, adding your own sound effects and movements that'll catch his eye and get his gears turning. Then "wake up" and attack your man with gusto. If he asks, tell him that of course he was the star of your slumber story.
Try this sweet seduction move: Take his hand and press your lips firmly into the palm, flicking your tongue over the area. This spot is a pressure point for his libido, says Michelle Kluck, a reflexologist and owner of Basic Knead (basicknead.com).
Shower before bed, then hand him a thick, plushy bath towel and ask him to dry you off. Inviting him to put his hands all over your wet, just-washed body will get him thinking anything but clean thoughts.
String twinkly Christmas lights around the ceiling of your bedroom, then get hot 'n' heavy under your own private starry sky.
Play a sexy version of Hangman by choosing words or phrases of things you want to try in bed, from "massage" to "blindfold." Trying to figure out each other's desires will make both of you all too willing to make those mystery words a reality.
Drive him crazy by kissing around, but not on, your husband's privates: Starting right below the navel, slowly make your way over to his thigh, and then the other thigh, slowly spiraling inward. The nerve endings you ignore will become 10 times more sensitive in anticipation, says Brame.
Light some sparks in your backyard one night by walking around in the rain -- sans umbrella. Your rain-kissed look will definitely make his head turn and give him a hankering to get you out of those wet clothes.
Take an eyeliner pencil and write "Kiss me" or "Caress me" on your stomach, breast or other body part, adding arrows to tell him where to go (and what to do) next, suggests Brame. Not only will he be sweetly surprised when you disrobe, but you'll get exactly what you want, where you want it!
Want to flash him an erotic eyeful the next time you're wearing a short skirt? Drop your car keys and then pick them up by bending waaaay over.
Pick up a juicy tome, like My Secret Garden, by Nancy Friday, and read each other the good parts to fill your minds with sensual thoughts.
Buy a va-va-voom bra-and-panty set. Show it to him -- on the hanger. Then when you're out one night, tell him you're wearing it...right now.
Kiss him with your eyes open, savoring the sight of your smooch.
Play the Alphabet Game, spelling out sexually suggestive words on his back with your finger and then having him guess what you wrote. This will tune his body in to the subtlest sensations and make him crave more caresses.
Wear jewelry where you normally wouldn't -- a belly chain, a toe ring, an upper-arm cuff. Once these shiny objects have captured his attention, use your creativity to keep it.
While dressing for work one morning, give him a reverse striptease: Put on a sultry CD and, standing well within his ogling range, get dressed slooowly, swaying your hips. You may not get very far before he pounces.
During your next makeout session leave your bra on, pulling your breasts out of each cup. This will allow access but keep them looking gorgeously full.
Create your own customized sexy CD by burning one on your computer. Need some suggestions of songs that'll pump up the passion? The slow, sultry tunes of Lucinda Williams and Lisa Marie Presley should do the trick.
Stage your own American Idol: Tell your guy he's judge Simon Cowell and sing him a sassy song. After your performance, tell him you'll do anything to stay on the show.
Give him a hug that'll heat things up: Press your index and middle fingers into the base of his neck, just to the left of his spine. This pressure point will send signals straight to his nether region.
Hate wearing sexy-but-uncomfortable underwear? Buy the new boy-short styles, like Donna Karan Intimates' Body Spa Boy Leg (donnakaran.com). They're roomy but give a flirty flash of butt cheek that'll make your husband think you put them on just for him.
Give him a morning peep show by installing a translucent shower curtain to show him a tantalizingly blurry image of you. It'll keep sex on his mind all day.
Take a boudoir photo of yourself, wrapped in nothing but a white sheet, with a Polaroid and leave the snapshot in your husband's sock drawer.
Wear a new perfume for your next close encounter; then afterward spray it on something he takes to work. The scent will awaken his memories and make him hot for you all over again.
Test your balancing skills by making love in a hammock late at night, when the neighbors won't be able to see.
Breathe deeply as you climax. "Women tend to hold their breath as their excitement mounts," says Sussman. "But by breathing deeply, you'll bring oxygen-rich blood to all parts of your body, making your skin more sensitive to his every touch."
Give your bedroom a bordello-esque glow by draping a red scarf over the bedside lamp. The rosy light will make your skin look extra-touchable.
Instead of racing toward your peaks during sex, pick a period of time (longer than usual) that you're going to take to get there. Forcing yourselves to teeter on the brink until, say, 9:20pm will make your finale much more explosive.
Leave a soft light on tonight and keep your eyes open during lovemaking. Seeing your bodies entwined will create some enticing eye candy.
Make up a new name for sex: chasing the rainbow, grabbing some paradise, whatever means something to just the two of you. That way you can bring up this steamy topic in public -- and share a secret that'll strengthen your bond.
When getting undressed one evening, take off everything but your high heels. Casually walk around as if you just haven't bothered to kick them off yet.
The next time you get it on, keep your underwear on as long as possible to get him really hot and bothered.
Treat his tie like a leash and lead him to bed. He'll love being your pet. Red BookMag

I’m really attracted to my guy and we have an amazing personal connection, but terrible sex. What can we do to make it better? Sexual chemistry doesn’t always equal good sex. And, since our bodies don’t come with user manuals, maybe you need to create one together. Next time you and your man are going to do the deed, try this simple exercise, which lets you discover what really turns both of you on. Tell your boyfriend that you want to take turns "giving" and "receiving." Let him know that you'll be the giver first. If he's like most guys, he'll be more than happy with that arrangement. Start off with a slow, sensual massage, then gradually build up to more erotic activities like teasing him with licks and kisses up and down his torso, and then moving on to manual or oral genital stimulation. This is your chance to lavish his body the way you would want him to lavish yours. And, encourage him to give you feedback, so you can tune in to what type of stimulation really makes him tick. Be sure to let him know how much you're enjoying the process too. When it's your turn to receive (either after he's had a chance to recover from you pleasuring him, or the next time you're sexually intimate), he'll likely follow the example you set when you were the giver. If he doesn’t, you can remind him. Also, just the simple fact of being in “giver mode” will compel him to slow down and focus on your responses. Use this opportunity to enthusiastically let him know what feels good, and to gently clue him in to what doesn't. Hopefully, this exercise helps you and your boyfriend become more tuned in to each other’s bodies and more open about your desires. And that will enable you to have a much more satisfying sex life. Cosmopolitan